I just got back from an evening 'with my boyfriend' in part. Two hours of badminton, of which he played at most 20 minutes with me
He told me while dropping me off that the whole past few months that we've been going to play badminton 2-3x/week together that hee doesn't really enjoy playing with me. That he likes to be challengd, and that's not really my playing style. He told me not too long ago also, that he doesn't enjoy studying with me on campus because I distract him by just being there. Despite my not saying much to him and listening to music basically the whole time.
All of these things, among a few others, were used again myself by him in a fight we had a week or so ago about how much time we spend together, which he said is frustrating because he doesn't feel like he can do any more than the 4-5x/week we currently have.
That guilt-tripping is setting me off now, to know it was all a lie. Sure, he'd 'spend time with me' but how much of a fool does that make me if I go out of my way to be with him, then learn he doesn't find it enjoyable,
I don't even know what to belive. He got a good job in the summer that will be partially full time. He said last summer that he worked too much andt hat this summer, there's going to be lots of biking. Sounds like that's going out the window.
I think I'll tell him that I won't see him next till maybe Saturday night at bamdinton. Which I'd go to only if our other friends go and play, as well as in hopes of seeing one of he cute staff guys who overlook it who my boyfriend asked me to stop bringing up but you know what? Fuck it.
Karma's a bitch
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i wouldn't personalize it... you're not a fool for wanting to do different things than he wants. He does sound like he needs space, however. I would say become more distant both physically and emotionally up to a point where you feel comfortable. If he chooses to go so far apart that you break up, well, he doesn't love you does he?1
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