my boyfriend and I aren't officially broken up. he said he didn't want space and it was fine if I texted him. he gets annoyed if I text him too much or text him several times in a row.
we are great at talking when we are together. sometimes we talk for 1-3 hrs.
well last night he said "I'm done talking goodnight" . I guess he meant for the night. but now I don't know what to do. If I don't text him he's just going to think I don't care. If I do, I don't want to annoy him. I just want to see him and have everything back to normal but it seems like the more I try the worse I make it. help
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i don't see how this is near a breakup.
basically from what you've said, it sounds like you're being annoying and he wants you to tone it down. that's all.
what is there to get back?
from all you've said, it sounds like you text incessantly and he gets tired of receiving like a million texts every time he checks his phone. perhaps he also doesn't like paying for it when it's not even anything important and you can talk about it later. and maybe he's not even a texting person to begin with.
it doesn't seem to be an issue with space if he has said he doesn't want space, but just an issue with the fact that you text too much.
him saying "i'm done talking, goodnight" probably meant "i am tired and need to go to sleep now, it's not like we're having a huge important relationship discussion here"
so overall I don't know where you're getting this whole "lost him, need to get him back" thing from. stop texting 24/7 is all you need to do. I'm sure he likes getting random texts from you once in a while, everyone likes getting those, so if you text no more than twice the entire day, I think he's not going to get offended like you commented somewhere way below there.
you make it sound like it's so hard to stop texting, like smoking or something. ya, it's a habit, but it's not so melodramatic. limit to 2 random txts/day, not one right after the other. make sure they're not over a page, but just short.
if there is something really important, yeah, either text it or better yet call, but otherwise I agree, texting profusely is super annoying. just call if you want to talk.1