now i contacted her and she said she's not looking for someone and that we can be friends, then she says "we're not friends but we're working on it" WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? then she asks why didn't you ever say you wanted something besides sexual with me?
Most Helpful Girl
I'm not sure about the last part where she says "why didn't you ever say you wanted something besides sexual with me."
To me it seems the problem here was communication. If you were living together and hooking up, she probably hoped you'd end up in a relationship with one another. When that didn't happen, she got upset. Did you guys talk about things beforehand and decide it was just casual, or did you just sort of leave things up in the air?
Even when guys say they don't want a relationship, tons of women think they can change the guys mind by bending over backwards for him, having sex, etc. My guess is this is what happened. Hooking up with each other, especially when she has feelings for you, is not something that friends typically do. She may feel used and more of a booty call, meaning that you weren't friends, you were using one another for sex, regardless of the reason in her mind.
Based on personal experience, I'd say either of these three are possible...
1. She genuinely wants to be your friend, and is trying to explain that the friendship will be completely platonic, and the two of you will not be hooking up.
2. She still has feelings for you, and is trying to be friends in the hopes that you will change your mind.
3. She's unsure of how she feels about you, but wants some sort of closure about why you didn't want to be in a relationship with her
Good luck, and just be honest. Gently tell her the truth, whatever it may be.0
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Most Helpful Guy
lol... ur getting the run around. don't worry about it mate or you will drive yourself insane trying to figure out what girls are thinking. You should see what an ex of mine did to me on Vals day lol.
You said you contacted her (first mistake)... seems like she wants something more than just sex, and im guessing you don't?
here's a tip, keep it simple... first off, know what you want from this girl... then ask her what she wants and determine how to move forward from there.
Example, if you just want to hook up again and she want a relationship... well... move on.0
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