how do I move on past the feeling of being a crazy ex girlfriend? my boyfriend cheated on me and I went crazy. I did so many creepy things, logging into his accounts, creating fake profiles to follow him, texting him from fake numbers, and he found out about all of them. now that I've taken a step back, I realize how wrong and creepy this was. how can I move on from this and not feel so embarassed? Im afraid for the rest of his life he will remember me as the crazy ex girlfriend...
Most Helpful Guy
He cheated on you so in my opinion he deserves everything he gets. A while back I thought my girlfriend (at that time) was acting a little strange... I had a feeling she had somehow met someone... she came back from a 2 day trip with one of her (girl) friends and she had some roses which she said she bought from a market, and proceeded to use my vase to keep them safe etc.
While she was in the shower, and even though I didn't want to, I caved in to the urge to look on her phone and check her messages. I saw messages between her and a guy [we'll just call him Bob] and it seems that she'd met him in a bar and he gave her the flowers the next day before she came back.
When she got out the shower I asked her 'so... who is 'BOB'?, and why did you say the roses are from the market?' she immediately burst out crying and said she was sorry (even though the texts showed that she planned to go on a date with him at some point).
I told her to call him up immediately (in front of me) and tell him that she has a boyfriend and that she made a mistake meeting him and accepting flowers from him. When she refused, I took the phone and called him myself, telling him that if he came near her I would make him pay dearly'... you could say what I did was also crazy but you know what? When someone crosses you like that... sometimes you have to take action (to be clear I wasn't actually going to do anything, it was just for show to scare her into not doing this again - I'd rather she broke up with me than cheat on me).
Anyway... yeah.. I think you went a little too far, after you found out he cheated on you you could just break up with him if you couldn't trust him anymore. But I do understand you 75% and 25% think you went too far.
Either way, he's your ex who CHEATED ON YOU so I wouldn't even worry about what he thinks. He's scum to you, keep it that way.0
Most Helpful Girl
Hahaha that was creepy but we all have done something embarrassing with people we have or had a crush on.
But now, think about it. It is in the past, what you did, it's done now and you have no power to change that even if you wanted to. You just need to accept what you did. You either work on getting over it or you will let it stress you for the rest of your life. So whenever you remember it say to yourself "it's done, i can't change it actually it is no big deal" he may remember you as creepy but he will not be wasting his time thinking about that. Eventually it will feel less and less embarrassing, and be sure it won't kill you. And don't try to apologize with him you know because... it may will make things more embarrassing, just don't give a crap about it and it will be fine0