So we've been dating for two years, when we met I was a virgin and she wasn't. Our relationship has been okay, but for the last year I feel like I don't want to be committed until I experience others. By that is that I don't want to be married with her in the future, and to be curious about intimate relations with other woman. Kinda hard to explain. But I'd really like someone else opinion on this. I would honestly like a long break, and to get back together for good. is that wrong?
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I agree with nilgai's comment about being honest with her. I know too many people that have stayed together and gotten married when they had feelings such as yours beforehand. They are now middle-aged miserable people that pretend to love each other even as they have their affairs. You owe it to her and to yourself to be honest about this.
I was engaged twice to two different guys before I finally got married. In each case, I was the one that broke it off. It hurt them AND me but it certainly hurt less than wasting a lifetime only to find it wasn't right. When I first read your post, I thought here's a guy that really cares about this girl and is wanting to do the right thing... then I read your update about if you should tell her the truth.. and it makes me think twice.
Do both of you a favor and tell her the truth, as kindly and honestly as you can. And listen to what she has to say too. She may have more insight into the relationship and your feelings than you realize. Whether or not you end up back together is not the issue. The issue is that you both end up with someone you can be honest with and care enough TO be honest with. If you don't have that in a relationship, the rest won't matter much.2