Problem 1: I'm finding it difficult to integrate into her Russian family. She, doesn't want to move to the UK, where I'm determined to settle down and work permanently.
Problem 2: Meeting girls whom I feel I'd rather be with, who take interest in me. Eg. I've gotten to know a colleague lately - an English girl who fits my goals, hobbies, and current personality perfectly.
Problem 3: I used to be a very romantically driven person, but my girlfriend and I don't do anything like that. No flowers, no valentines, no dinners (or even dates), no whirlwind holidays. It was ok because we had other connections, but that romantic energy is returning, but for some reason I can't direct it at her, only at this English girl (or one other girl before that).
I've never left anyone before - this is my first and only serious relationship. My girlfriend stands to lose a lot if we break up, financially and otherwise, and she's desperate to marry and have kids in the next year or two (she's 27). We are so stable together. We'd create a great setting for raising children. I risk losing that stability forever. She's convinced she'll never find anyone again if we part. She senses my trouble and has been compensating with shows of affection, which makes these thoughts all the harder.
As much as I love her, I want to feel being smitten again. I want to be with someone who accepted me for my strengths, even though my girlfriend basically rescued me.