Most Helpful Guy
I think he's lying to you and to himself, but I could be wrong.
Most Helpful Girl
I'm sorry about what happened, though I'm not sure there's any correlation between your ex having cheated on you and the fact that you guys never exchanged an 'I love you'. I'm sure that, in your 7 years of dating, you at the very least felt the love coming from him.
Some people simply feel more comfortable expressing their emotions, regardless of how strongly they feel them, via actions versus verbal affirmation.
I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We've also yet to exchange a single 'I love you' which sure, bothers me. However, I certainly feel that he loves me and just recently I learned that he's not a single time told even his parents that he loves them.. He's always made a point of being very respectful and speaking very highly of them so I guess that just goes to show that whether people voice their love or not can be a more cultural as well as personal thing versus a universal norm.