To start it off we lasted 6 months. We knew eachother through middle school, all the way up until last semester of college when we really started to talk to eachother and become best friends. At some point I thought it would be a good idea to date her so I asked. She liked me and we hit things off. Her first and only relationship didn't end well, and it was recent (Rebound?). Anyways before I get to the reason why she broke up with me I'm trying to give the best perspective. It only happened yesterday but when I think back over all the things that have been happening lately, and the way she is been acting I can easily bring up the possibility that I was a rebound to her ex. She had health issues that played the deciding factor in not wanting to commit. She said she can't commit to our relationship or any other because she is not doing so well. I understand that. But she told me her health is a priority from the beginning and we should take it slow. I was there with her every step of the way, and now she drops this on me after six months. All she kept saying is that I deserve that someones gives me 100% and if she can't do that she doesn't want to be in a relationship at all. Also mentioning only seeing eachother one day a week as if that was our future. I could tell something was up because 2 days before she said nothing to me, and she was pretty distant with holding hands, kissing, and everything. I was pretty shocked to see how fast she went from doing all that stuff, to just wanting to be friends. Which makes me think this was just for her to fill some void. She assured me that it had nothing to do with me and that she still had attraction to me and loved me. I've heard that before. I feel like she did the classic its me not you excuse. I also told her now that its over she can tell me the truth of what is really going on but she gave me the same exact excuses. She said she still wants in her life. What should I do? (Updates to come)
- Try to be friends and see how that goes.Vote A
- Just move on and never talk to her again.Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
I see the Sure Signs, @Sfuller15 of a Full Circle Problem Pattern of the Other who Once was a Significant Other... Of Wanting her Space, Not being in Real Relationship and Now, Simply Wants her Sweet cake and Eat It... Two.
She wants it Both Ways on All of These "New" as now, so the Meat ball is Really in Your own Court with Not Courting her.
If it Hurts too Much and Hard to Handle with Even Kid's gloves, No contact is Best from the Rest and just Civil Tonge... While still Young.
Good luck. xx0
Most Helpful Guy
Honestly brother there on two different ways to look at this. I voted move on then I read a little bit more into it. On one end speaking from my past its really hard to be friends with a girl if you have feelings for her especially if you were in a relationship for 6 months. Ask yourself this in a month or two if she showed up to hangout with you or text you in the middle of the night asking for advice about a new guy. Could you handle that? I know for me it was hard to take that my friend was with some guy and she wasn't with me. With that being said you may be a lot stronger than I. On the other end of things you two have known each other and since middle school that isn't a small statistic. Being in a rhythm for that long is hard to break and you said she has health issues right? God forbid but if those issues get worse. What then ya know? I don't know her health situation is. I have a friend who was in a situation with a girl with health problems so you just always wanna look at it that way. Ask your self how that would affect you not just from one end of the spectrum but both. That will play a huge part either way If that's the way the dice are rolled. In closing I say try it out be her friend and see how it goes. There is nothing wrong with giving it that ole college try. Either way it goes down best of luck to ya brother!1