Now, I know what you guys must be thinking like "ain't it obvious? Soooo stupid" but I'm wondering why couples divorce or break up because we all get into fights; some nasty some mild. Whether it be with a parent (s) or siblings or friends or what not, but we all get back together right? It's not like we divorce from our families and friends (unless circumstances are extremely detrimental like verbally/physically abusive) but some couples just end it cause they fight too much even if things aren't that bad or they divorce cause the love is lost or the sex is boring. I mean these are things that can be fixed so why rush to ending it? Instead of searching for alternative methods to fixing it. If you could fix things with friends and family (granted not all bonds are mended, but you know what I mean) all then I'm pretty sure people can do it with SO's and I know some couples do, but then why do they give up in the end?
Most Helpful Guy
In my case (divorce) it was both our faults. We both had different methods of doing things. Combine that with a fear of change and you have a great recipe for a breakup! Slap two imperfect people together and what will you get? A totally imperfect union. However... if two people accept their part in the problem, they CAN make the necessary changes. It requires perseverance on both sides and a massive amount of patience piled over with gobs of forgiveness.
If you're fighting the situation all by yourself, trying to change but the other person won't or even try, then yeah, it's breakup time. My ex separated from me. She and I went to counselling after a couple weeks and when they started telling her things she had to change too, that didn't sit well with her. She filed for divorce after 15 years of marriage. It was easier for her to leave than change. The fear of leaving was less than the fear of changing.0
Most Helpful Girl
Normally it's either that person doesn't want to settle down with just 1. So that causes problems and for people to break up.
They change over time and don't believe in the same things anymore.
They could have also made a poor judgement about if the other person is someone they truly love. Most people don't even know what they truly want. Along with know what kind of person that would be perfect with them.
Then you have people that just want to be in relationships and get married. They don't think about that person they are with. Since they are stuck in the fantasy of what an awesome relationship would be.0