Most Helpful Guy
so what was the real resolution to the phone call? Just take a break? in this situation - a volatile relationship - it probably won't work. You guys argue a lot, both seem not quite mature enough to handle a real fruitful relationship. Plus it's only been a few days since you talked? This question may be moot lol. A few days is nothing, a mutual break or not.
The question in general, however, is difficult. It depends on the people and the reason for the break and the PURPOSE of the break. I've never had a mutual break, though I have had brief breakups that would just lead back to seeing the same person.
But it's great timing for this question. I guess I'm in a break right now. Dated a girl for a while and hurt her real bad w/ my temper. She said she wanted to take a break, but I was too stubborn and kept talking to her for a couple months. Now I've talked to her just once in the past 1.5 months, forcing myself to not bother her. I texted her the other day to say hi, and got no reply. =( Now I'm afraid I may never get another chance...
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think any sort of 'break' can bode well for the relationship, regardless of how long you've been dating.
I understand that you guys are in a bit of a rut, lots of fighting, things feel off. That sort of thing, and you think that some time apart will fix it. Sad to say, it's not that simple. I don't believe that if a couple is having a bit of an 'off period', that time apart will resolve anything so issues will remain just the same whether tensions have cooled or not. Also, what does it say for your long term potential if you need to set time apart at times when you're butting heads? Aren't couples supposed to stick it through good times as well as bad, without needing a vacation away from each other?
Maybe something feels off because he's already checked out of the relationship. Just a thought...