When he left, I didn't see or speak to him for over two years
I met my current partner when my daughter was 4 months old, I didn't expect it to be as instant as it was, the last thing in the world I was looking for was another relationship, nor did I expect him to be as good to my daughter as he has been. He has been absolutely incredible with her. She calls him dad now, and that's how she sees him.
When my ex changed his mind about wanting to be involved with her, it was hell for us all. He and I had to go through mediation, we went to court twice... it was the worst few months of my life, and he was a complete dick the whole time. He still is.
He got his visitation though, at the moment he sees her for six hours once a week... and, being completely honest, I hate him for it. I also hate that he tries to undermine my partner's relationship with her.
He wasn't there, he doesn't get to do that.
It really upset me how he was allowed to just barge back into her life. It's not fair on her that he gets to play revolving doors like that.
It also really annoyed me how the man who has always been there for her was basically treated as irrelevant. It shouldn't be like that.
If the courts are so in the interests of children, parents shouldn't be allowed to change their minds when it suits them. I also think that if step parents have been a child's life for a certain amount of time, they should at least be given some rights.
That's fair, right?