So I've recently been going out with a girl from my college and I've really ended up liking her a lot. Unfortunately on our 4th date, I tried to kiss her but she ended up rejecting it. Soon after she became kinda cold whenever she texted and eventually I realized she was talking to some other guy on facebook. When I asked her if she still wanted to date, she ended up basically rejecting me completely at that. 2 weeks later, the two of them became a couple.
It's hard to understand what happened to me since everything seemed like it was going great. Point is its just a confusing situation for me. At any rate, I'm a white guy and she happened to be Asian. The guy she ended up with was also Asian. I guess I have slight preference for certain Asian girls at my school than other girls, I don't know why. But either way, whenever I see an Asian girl together with a guy, he also happens to be Asian. So I don't know I mean does it matter to girls that I'm a different race than them. I mean could that have been why she left me for him?
Now of course I'm not perfect when I date, I'm still kinda inexperienced to be honest, but I don't know I just feel that what happened here felt just so odd...
Also hopefully I don't come off ignorant writing this, but yeah it's something that's been on my mind for awhile
Most Helpful Girl
Well, some people prefer some race other than the others, but I think if she had been on dates with you for a total of 4 times, it must had been something good on her mind for a while. Maybe she feels awkward after being asked for a kiss when she's not ready, or maybe she found some flaws in you that she couldn't really deal with.
Personally, I'm also Asian but I prefer another race. Although, I have some Asian friends who'd prefer the same race for dating stuff, just because we are from the same kind of household and understand each other better in that way. Sometimes it's kinda hard to find a white guy who would totally be understanding in terms of how us Asian think.0
Most Helpful Guy
It matters to some. That said, more Asian girls are living with white guys than Asian guys in the u. s., so TONS of Asian girls are open to dating white guys (and some prefer).
Your mistake was waiting 4 dates to try for a kiss. Should have tried sooner, gotten rejected sooner, and stopped talking to her. You just dragged the 'no' out longer.0