My girlfriend and I are in love and love each other very much. We are each other's first loves and have come to a mutual agreement we'd like to spend the rest of our lives together. She is extremely attached to me, as I am to her and the thought of not having each other frightens us very much. On the 21st of March, we'll have known each other for 11 months. She says she is extremely loyal.
This is is all great however I fear it could change. We are both virgins and yet to have sex. As I am not particularly blessed in the genitalia department, whereby my package is grievously inadequate (5 inches), I feel as though I won't be able to satisfy her sexually and so she'd either cheat on me or leave me.
My question to you is, if you were in love with a guy who does all he can constantly to make you happy, would you then cheat/leave him for a guy who has a bigger tool, as you are sexually frustrated? I understand sex is an important part of a relationship but I feel I won't be able to satisfy her with my mere 5inches.
She also says she does not like the idea of one night stands as it it disrespectful to herself and she only wants to give her body to those she loves, though she admits the sex would feel good :(. However I feel she only said that to comfort me when I asked her if she would start resenting me when we go to university and she sees her friends with guys whilst she's tied down with me. She told me she chooses me and only wants to make love to me, but what if when we do make love, it doesn't please her?
Most Helpful Girl
Firstly... When there's love in sex it's automatically better.
secondly.. a guys package doesn't have to be huge to make sex good, it depends on how a guy uses it.
Thirdly, no, personally I would never do that.
My advice:Learn about how to please her etc. You do not have to have a huge penis, there are a lot of ways to make penetration better and deeper. Talk to each other about it and what she likes. I don't know how you feel about sex toys but you can get some and pleasure her with it. That way you will still be pleasing her and she'll know how it feels when it's bigger. (because I personally wondered about it with my ex but i would never cheat, especially not for those reasons),
Good luck and remember, always be confident in yourself.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
5 inches is about average so thats not an issue, your both virgins so she has no idea what other guys have to offer and therefore nothing to compare you to, she doesn't know if they are better or not but she knows you and she cares for you so the probability is low that she would leave. However that should not mean you shouldn't put effort into her, far from it. You both will learn what the other likes and as such will grow together because of your shared experiences. I would read up get advice and apply it (like how to give better oral) communication is also important. Distance is going to be the real issue not you being "inadequate"(which you don't know is the case, you could be a god damn pornstar for all you know!(especially if you overcompensate and put even more effort into her and her pleasure)) Over all I wouldn't be all that worried, statisticly her being a virgin is actually beneficial she has a much lower probability of cheating then a woman who is not.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE