My now ex cheated on me... I found out... and now he is begging me to forgive him and come back. but another guy who liked me asked me out. WHAT DO I DO? TAKE HIM BACK OR MOVE ON?
Most Helpful Guy
I can't tell you what todo but I can tell you my similar story. Long story short My ex cheated. I lost my trust in her. I broke down and forgave her because she wanted me back so bad and I wasn't really enjoying being away from her. I spent weeks in a weird untrustful unhappy state because although I verbally forgave her I hadn't let go of it. We broke up and it created a several year cycle of break ups and make ups each time with both of trying to make things better. But my laCk of trust caused her to act differently which caused me to act differently which went back and fort until neither one of us could enjoy the relationship. The whole second half of my relationship with her was nothing but melancholy longing for what we once had trying so hard to get it back only to hurt each other more. Now we don't speak. The distance brought me to a point of real forgiveness but the last time although we were both in a better place ended with us walking away from each other pretty confident in the fact that we'd done everything we could and no matter what we wanted this wasn't the right thing. So moral of the story if you can't forgive him 100% don't take him back. You'll only do more damage. It's almost like putting a broken piece back into a machine and expecting it to work find when in reality you'll probably just break the piece more as well as the rest of the machine.0
Most Helpful Girl
No. I'm not going to waste my time on someone who can't handle that basic level of respect for our relationship. Likewise if, for whatever stupid reason, I decided to cheat I would not expect my partner to forgive me or to stay with me. I'd have to just make myself a better person for my next partner.1