Most Helpful Guy
I can't tell you what todo but I can tell you my similar story. Long story short My ex cheated. I lost my trust in her. I broke down and forgave her because she wanted me back so bad and I wasn't really enjoying being away from her. I spent weeks in a weird untrustful unhappy state because although I verbally forgave her I hadn't let go of it. We broke up and it created a several year cycle of break ups and make ups each time with both of trying to make things better. But my laCk of trust caused her to act differently which caused me to act differently which went back and fort until neither one of us could enjoy the relationship. The whole second half of my relationship with her was nothing but melancholy longing for what we once had trying so hard to get it back only to hurt each other more. Now we don't speak. The distance brought me to a point of real forgiveness but the last time although we were both in a better place ended with us walking away from each other pretty confident in the fact that we'd done everything we could and no matter what we wanted this wasn't the right thing. So moral of the story if you can't forgive him 100% don't take him back. You'll only do more damage. It's almost like putting a broken piece back into a machine and expecting it to work find when in reality you'll probably just break the piece more as well as the rest of the machine.
Most Helpful Girl
NO! I am a very forgiving person, but my forgiveness doesn't extend to anyone who betrays me in any way. I have boundaries within a relationship and if anyone crosses them... i cut all ties with them. If they don't rise to my standards then i sure as hell am not gonna lower mine to theirs by giving them a second chance to hurt me again
Trust is the foundation for every relationship , so how can you give someone a second chance when they have already given you one good reason not to trust them . Trusting people in general is one of the most difficult challenges in life, so I don't believe you can ever get the same level of trust back with a person who has betrayed.
I value loyalty and i would never cheat on a guy , so I'd never accept less than i am willing to give. No matter how much i loved him i would cut all contact with him. Giving him a second chance is giving him your permission and the opportunity to do it again , because once a person cheats and you take them back you are setting your own standard of how they can treat you. Cheating will always be his potential.
You have two choices... give him a second chance , or give yourself a better chance... with some other guy who values loyalty and who will respect you.
You should respect yourself enough to walk away , and love yourself enough to move on from him.