when my wife of 2.5 years hurt me for the last 5 month and told me she doesn't love me and never did and our marriage was a mistake and deprived me from any kind of intimacy or affection and i found out she was in love with a guy since before we got married and met him several times before and during our marriage and i begged and tried to make things work for the sake of our son but still she recently left with our son, i was totally shocked and felt betrayed and stabbed in the back, but i never felt hate towards her. i am as civil as anyone can be, i contact her everyday to checkout on my son and see her every other day to pick him up and attend doctor's appointment together and yesterday was Palm's day and we went together to church for the sake of our son.
she tried to come back but i rejected her and told her we are over and i am preparing for divorce now.
i feel not being able to hate her is making things harder for me.
is there anything wrong with me? why can't i hate who hurt me badly?
Most Helpful Girl
There's nothing wrong with you at all. I am quite similar. I may hate what someone did to me , but I don't hate them as a person.
It's obvious that you are not vindictive , and you're an emotionally and mentally strong person. Those are great qualities to possess. You are able to gain control over your negative emotions , a lot of people find that difficult to do.
Your son is your priority. I admire you, because not a lot of people are able to put the pain and hurt behind them in order to provide love, peace and stability for their kids.
Plus, you are not a fool or pushover, because you didn't give you ex a second chance to hurt you again... when she wanted to come back to you.
There's too much hatred in the world , so never think there's something wrong with you just because you can't hate people who hurt you. That shows your strength of character. It's a sign of strength... not weakness
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Most Helpful Guy
Honestly you have a strength that others including me wish they possessed. There are many men and some women in prison, serving life for acting out after being betrayed by their lover.. It's awesome that you look out for your son and I would recommend seeking partial if not full custody in the proceedings
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