I got him to come round mine to talk about it last night and he wanted to know what was going on between us as he was confused. I couldn't give him an answer because I'm confused on what I want myself. I had previously thought about taking things further with him but couldn't make up my mind so I didn't say anything as I didn't want to get his hopes up and lead him on (though apparently I've already done that.) In the end I had to decide what to do as I couldn't just leave him in this no mands land of not knowing. I told him lets just be friends, I've got too much going on right now to even think about a relationship with someone. But now I've lost my bestfriend and I'm not even sure if I've made the right decision or not. He's told me he's pretty much done with me, we'll still be friends but we'll never be like we use too.
I don't even know what to do right now!
Most Helpful Guy
Here's the problem: He always wanted to have sex with you. Always. Years ago when you saw him as a friend, he was your friend, but he REALLY wanted to have sex with you. And basically he missed his window. His best friend drove this point home in spades when he had sex with you after one drunk night. This guy is upset because he feels like he invested YEARS in you and still didn't get to have sex with you, while his mate managed to after one day.
The lesson he needs to learn (and it's not clear he has learned it yet) is that if he's into a girl sexually, he has to make that known EARLY and he needs to pursue it OPENLY. Rather, he thought it made sense to hide his sexual attraction from you for months on end and to build up a friendship rather than to be transparent about what he wanted (sex with you) and approach you openly at a time you may have been more open to getting it on with him. In turn, he feels deceived and/or wronged by you, or at the very least judged unfit, unattractive, or un-fuckable as demonstrated by your willingness to get it on with his friend.
Most Helpful Girl
if u never liked him and if u know that you''ll never like him i think you've made a brave desicion , because if you 2 kept talking and talking and hanging out and blah blah blah he would only be hurt knowing that you don't have any interest on him. so i think you've done good , now he will move on , find a girlfriend and maybe then he will text you and you will be best friends again. it's just a matter of time. good luck :)