I had this affair when I was out of town , I was feeling guilty so decided to not tell anything to my girlfriend and keep it as a one time mistake. But this other girl doesn't think this way she says she think we can have a relationship after break up with my girlfriend. i told her that I'm not going to leave my girlfriend because I love her so much and she is the girl who I want to have a family with but she doesn't listen to me. She says she will tell her if I don't. how i can stop her from being sluty girl and forget about me?
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I say: don't say anything about it to your girlfriend and if this girl ever comes around to telling your girlfriend (which I'm pretty sure she won't cause I think she's saying it to make you do it so that YOU are the one to ruin the relationship yourself) tell her this is some crazy woman you've been trying to avoid. Deny, deny, deny.1
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Quite honestly, you can't stop her from telling anyone assuming she can find a way to figure out who your girlfriend is (which is pretty easy nowadays).
All you can really do is damage control now that you are guilty of cheating. I'd tell the girlfriend first of the situation. If she hears it from an outside source first, you are pretty much screwed.
Another thing is that you'll want to emphasize it was a purely physical event and not emotional. Psychology experiments have shown that women are more likely to forgive physical cheating compared to emotional (men are opposite in that regard).
You should be prepared though to be dumped, dropped, and cursed at. This is simply consequences of an action made and there is a high chance this will happen from the nature of cheating.
Perhaps you can use this situation as a learning experience. Whether or not you continue in the relationship or get dumped and find another, DON'T cheat again! Remember this guilt and etch it into your soul. Remember the awkwardness and how you never want to have an experience like this again. Remember it all so you can prevent a repeat.
All that can be done is damage control and explaining the situation to your girl from your side.
(Note: I wouldn't consider a slutty girl considering you chose to initiate too. It isn't all her fault as you are both to blame. "Takes two to tango" as they say.)0