Broke up with my boyfriend for a good reason? I feel like I'm going crazy?
What Guys Said 3
First of all, you don't need to justify to anyone but yourself whether a relationship is satisfying for you or is not.
Secondly, his needs are clearly different from yours. My wife and I have discussed this very issue -- when she is troubled and distressed she wants to be left alone; I want to be touched. Recently when I was having a bad day she wanted to do something for me. She announced at the end of the day that she had polished my shoes. I had to laugh. She did for me what she wants to do for her when she is stressed. Personally, I don't care about whether my shoes are shined or not, I would rather have had a hug or a massage from her. For her, polished shoes are important and she prefers to be comforted with acts of service like that. My point is that you are not wrong and your ex-boyfriend -- you just need different things from one another.
Perhaps if each of you understood more clearly what the other needed, you could each do a better job of meeting one another's needs (instead of projecting your own needs onto the other). Or, maybe you and he are simply incompatible and unable to meet one another's needs. I cannot say which is the case -- that is for you to decide.
Just shrug and move on if he is going to be like that. His loss not yours0
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