Me and my boyfriend broke up 2 weeks ago. He said he knows its out of blue but he fell out of love with me etc. I do not believe this could happen as there was no signs. Now I realised i might have missed a big thing which was me moving away for a while. I spoke to his sister after the break up and she said " do you think you will work out when your away" i said of course we can do it we r meant to be and ill come back after max a year. She said" thats good ill tell him that" Since then we met few times. Once was on a night out when he claimed he loves me and misses me. I spoke to one of his best friends and he said the same thing" he might be afraid. You two are really serious together living with each other since a year and now you leaving might be the reason he ended it as was afraid" He stayed with me that night as always and we were cuddling all the time saying we wish it never ended. Though next day in the afternoon i drove him back home. He invited me to his house just like always had tea but was bit cold towards me. We met again few times in college for coffee and it was fine, though whenever we got close he took a step back. I asked him why, what did i do etc. He said " it is better to do it now than when im leaving". Though i asked so is it me moving away and he said "not really but ya it adds to it" wouldn't tell me exactly and i think its because he doesn't want me to stop my dreams. he is now out almost all the time trying to be all cool but when i see him i can tell he's broken inside, and when he was leaving me he was crying so badly just like me. i just dont know if that me moving away could actually be the full reason and he didn't fell out of love just said that, because it was easier. As mentioned before- it was a shock for me, his friends and his family that he left me like that. His mum and sister said" you two are perfect, there hasn't been a day he said he doesn't love you. You were the only one for him and we hope he will wake up".
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He is not broken, he is coping how he knows best. Normally our gut insticts are correct, you know he still loves you regardless of what he says. Its a self defense mechanism him saying he feels different. And yes distance can destroy relationships. If the two of you love each other and have a truelly good relationship that is healthy and makes you both better people (which is so very rare these days) then why not one of you move, maybe ask him if he will move with you for a year? I've made the mistake of letting someone go that i loved. If its good make it work.1
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