So my ex dumped me a few days ago because he missed his friends and wanted more freedom. I think he also didn't like me as much anymore. If you were in this guy's shoe what is something I could say or do to get him wanting me back? We ended it on a sweet note. Me- " I really did love you" him- " I really did love you too" he also told me I could find someone new easy. He didn't see his friends for like 3 weeks tho bc of me. So I think he did really miss them. I'm also going to bonfire this weekend. Should I post pics on snapchat of me having fun? How could I get him back?
just give me ideas on how to. I don't want to get told there is no way or he won't come back it will just make me upset. I just want some hope. Just please just give ideas and nothing else
Most Helpful Guy
Did you not allow him to spend time with his friends? Or did he willingly spend all his time with you? Even with that in mind, it still sounds like he didn't want the relationship.
You shouldn't go out of your way to try to get him to respond in a certain way, i. e. posting pictures of the bonfire. I mean, if you were going to go and post photos anyway, that's fine, but if you're going to do it just to get his attention, you're just going to create trouble for yourself. What if you don't get the reaction you want?
Like I said though, I really don't think he wanted the relationship, based on what you've said here.2
Most Helpful Girl
Girl, you need to learn this lesson early on---a guy that doesn't really want you is not worth keeping. Seriously, he's just not that into you. Being desperate and willing to settle for a guy who really doesn't want to be with you is only going to get you played. Then you're going to grow up to be another one of those dumb women wondering why they can't get a solid loyal man.
What you NEED to do is cut off contact with him---NOT be rude about it, or ignore him if you ever see him, but you really don't need to be his snapchat friend anymore or text him or call him or hang out with him for a looooooong while. Not until you've finally gotten over the emotional aspects of the breakup and have zero remaining feelings for him, which again is going to be a looooooong time. Probably months. Maybe years.
Hang out with your girls, get your mind off him, and DON'T do dumb crap like trying to make him jealous or show him you're having a good time without him (which is a downright lie, because if you were fine you wouldn't be trying to prove anything).4