My ex and I were really close. We were friends before we dated and I'll always love him but I've started seeing someone new... We broke up about 3 weeks ago... He was the one I lost my virginity to and he says he still loves me... Should I tell him I'm seeing someone new or just leave it alone. Part of me feels like I should so he doesn't hear it from someone else but the other part me of is afraid of hurting him even more...
Most Helpful Guy
Are you trying to make him jealous? Do you really want it to be over between you and your ex? Are you really reconciled to never seeing him again?2
Most Helpful Girl
I think it depends on a few things:
1) How long you dated
2) Why did you break up/who broke up with who
3) Are you sure you're not coping with the breakup and the new person is a rebound? If they aren't, do you like them enough to potentially hurt your ex?
4) Would you be hurt if you saw your ex with someone right now?
(If yes, refer back to #3)
5) If roles were reversed, would you want your ex to tell you or find out through the grapevine? (If yes, you know what you should do)
Breakups are hard, I think people at times forget that not everyone copes the same and I believe that respecting an ex is important. The fact you're asking is good shows you care enough to respect him, and if you do talk to him about it just be as gentle as you can and assure him that it has nothing to do with y'alls past relationship and that you don't want to hurt him.0