Two weeks ago, He started to call me everyday. I spoke to him once. he said he misses me and her. I told him I am not his back burner and will nut be ging back to him. He said he knows. The conversation was calm, cool, friendly, at times with some teasing on my end.
I said we can be friends. But why still call me everyday?
I don't call my friends everyday.
Should I be clear with him or leave it and call him back when I want to?
Most Helpful Guy
Just do what feels natural to you.
If you are very clear you are done, then let him know. If it feels uncomfortable talking to him, then tell him so, I am sure he will understand.
The most important thing is to realize that all relationships are eternal, in the sense that you will always remember what happened. It's very useful to develop a "good" perspective around your relationship, so that when you think back to it, or talk about it, you talk about the good stuff.
You're kind of doing this already when you say that you were "very close" etc. Keep doing that. It's easy to become judgmental and feel hurt etc but all those sentiments are ultimately bad for you because you are never happy when you're feeling like that. And you should aim to be happy more of the time.
So just relax and talk to him whenever you want, and be honest about how you feel.
Most Helpful Girl
You should block him. He broke up with you and now he wants to keep you as a backup plan. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Just ignore him and move forward with your life.1