So, my ex and I broke up like 3 weeks ago and then he immediately got into a new relationship 5 days later with his ex. It sounds really bad, but I mean I'm over it, it's whatever. Anyways, his guy best friend is also my best friend, and so our friend told me that my ex said that he f***ing hates me, he loves his new girlfriend and doesn't plan on leaving her anytime soon. I don't understand this though since I never hurt him at all... he's the one who left me! And like my friend says that every day he asks if I'm talking bad about him... like why does he still care about what I'm saying? Obviously I'm still hurt so that justifies me talking and asking about him, but the fact that he says he hates me, has a girlfriend (who I know is just a rebound) like why does he want to know what I'm saying or doing?
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He is bad-mouthing you and saying he hates you to justify why he broke up with you. People who end the relationship always tend to do this, guys especially and because you say you didn't do anything that would make him feel resentment towards you... by saying that he hates you this prevents him from feeling shitty or regretting breaking up with you in the first place.
He also wants to know if you are talking badly about him because this is a sign of being hurt by what happened and I guess he wants to know if you are. People don't like it when there ex whom they broke up with doesn't seem upset about what happened as this kind of makes them think 'maybe they never loved me in the first place' I guess he is just checking up on this.
He could also be checking because he doesn't want you be upset about the break-up or could possibly be checking to see if you are talking badly about him as he wants to protect his ego but it all comes down to how smoothly or badly your break-up went to determined which one.
To be honest its only been 3 weeks like you said this is kind of expected you should be concerned if it was months or years down the track but its only been a matter of weeks.1
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