I met a guy on a dating site. He is 45.
He was very keen straight away and rushed me into a relationship. I do try to have my wits about me but this guy swept me off my feet. The first things I noticed about him was the vast amount of Facebook friends he had, well over 1600. He also played the victim regarding his past relationship but never gave much detail. He also appeared very generous with his spending not just eith me but with others. Buying large rounds and was always on social media posting photos of him as if he was a real fun guy.
He put me on a pedestal. Said I was special and he couldn't believe he'd found me.
Several weeks into it he tells me he usually goes for younger women than myself but hadn't had much luck. And that he had a few people interested in getting with him.
I was a little hurt.
He litirally went from very interested to quiet after I missed a good night text. He sent me a message only to go on a ignore mine. I sensed he was annoyed at me and backed off. He then sends me a messaging saying is he reading too much into the lack of communication. I didn't give much reassurance as I too had become annoyed.
He then cuts me off quite coldly by texting a massive excuse about him thinking its not going to work long term. When I replied I had feelings he goes silent.
I was discarded. No contact has been made and it's as if he'd never met me.
is it possible I was merely just a source of supply?
Most Helpful Guy
I'd say yes. selfish... yes. Player... possibly.
playing the victim is kinda of an emotional play to suck you in. It is not a good sign, I'd much rather see someone take a mature stance of their responsibility in it, what they learned, and how they grew. that is healthy sign.
don't know what to say... sorry. you sound like a sweetheart, I don't like to see this happen. I so wish women could better manage these guys... because they get rewarded for being bad, which causes problems for the rest of us that try to be good.
Most Helpful Girl
He sounds more insecure and hurt than narcissic. Im a narcissistic person but I also put people I love on a pedelstal next to me. Give it time, it will either work or won't... but bugging him will push him further into a hole. Just let him figure out what he has going on and play it calm n cool. Sorry, its hard.. but once in awhile just ask him how he's doing and how his day is. If its meant to work, it will find its way to.1