This was back in September.
In January, I met the goofball that I would soon fall in love with. I won't fangirl extensively here, but it's such a comfortable companionship. Awkwardness was obliterated in a blink of an eye because we just... click... On top of that, he treats me wonderfully, respects my wishes and boundaries, and doesn't pressure me into things he shouldn't. He listens. Truly listens. Something I've never really had.
I wish I could truly say that HE was my first relationship instead.
Anyway, life was wonderful until a week ago when my ex messaged me asking if I was seeing anyone. I tried to lighten the mood & casually tease him about whether he has a girlfriend yet but to no avail.
I know this is childish of me, but I'm nervous to tell him that yes, I am taken, and that I've moved on. I'm terrified of his reaction. I know he probably just wants closure, but I'm afraid of what he might or might not do when he finds out. He probably already knows the answer, but still... I really just want him to drop it and leave it alone. He knows we can't and won't be a thing again.
TL;DR Ex came out of nowhere asking if I was seeing anyone. Not sure how to react or respond.
What would you do in this situation? Am I being stupid/ignorant/etc? (Since I'm asking this at 2am, it's possible)
Most Helpful Guy
Well just do what you should , say how you feal and it might hurt him so be carefull if you do not do it now it will get worse . So say that you 2 have to move on... 😔
Most Helpful Girl
Tell him you're in a relationship with someone. It's better he knows, because then he'll give up any hope he might have of you guys getting together again.
Honestly, if I were you I'd cut things off with him completely, and say you think a clean break is best and will make it easier for everyone to fully move on. I was in your position once, with a guy who wanted to stay friends even though we were over, and I agreed at the time because he said we could keep it platonic and I didn't want to be mean, but the problem is he kept trying to make things more than what they were, and I could tell he wasn't over it. Finally, I just had to do what I'm advising you to do, and cut contact.
He'll be fine, he's a grown man. His reaction to the truth isn't your problem, and it really is better for him too if he stops hoping for anything more with you.