My husband has cheated several times and I asked for a divorce and he says he doesn't want one but I don't think my heart can trust that he will do right. Is it true that once a cheater is always a cheater and he'll never change? What should I do I don't wanna give him my whole heart again, is it wrong to ask to see what messages and pictures he sent on his phone? Keep in mind we have 5 kids and have been married for 12 years.
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honetly I don't know about once a cheater always a cheater, cause ok I'm not married and I'm just 20, but I've with this guy for 4 years, the 1st year, I found some txt msgs in his phone from girls saying I miss you, u're hot etc.. and 6months later I found some pics of an older woman than him practically naked.. ok I shouldn't had sneaked in his phone but he did it first, with no reason to mine, I found out and decided to take 'my revenge', like a kid, but unfortunately I on the other hand got some bad news. anyways it's ben 3 years since then and haven't really got anything from him that he might still be cheating, though he does show that he 'admires' other women, like rihanna for ex, and ok I like johnny depp but I don't rub it in his face like he does it.. so I don't know.
but my parents did divorce when I was 6 bcz of my father's cheating, whom he eventually secretly married and secretly got a kid with, well when I was 6, I didn't understand anything, and don't even rememebr, except that my father kicked us out of the house me, my mom and brother and had to move to another country. I actually realised everything when I was 9, when my step-siter came along and was shocked, and no I still haven't forgiven my father's mistakes, and don't want want to have any relationship with my step-mother. so please do what is the best for the kids, don't mess them up, especially if they're at a young age..0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE