even though me and my ex are not together anymore, I still watch over him because I am very protective of him, and obviously I still care. we're still friends, but I still have a lot of feelings for him even though we've been broken up for 3 months now. we were together for 8. he even got a girlfriend after a week of us being broken up. my ex tends to get screwed over, and I'm not exactly sure why. I'm the only girlfriend he's ever had that hasn't cheated/given up/ or broke up with him. but anyway, his girlfriend broke up with him on friday and in school he was crying to me about it. and I don't get why I'm not good enough for him? I would never hurt him like that. I would never give up on him. I've put so much effort into our relationship its crazy but yet he still doesn't see that how good together we could be.. how do I make him realize that without coming out and saying it?
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Question: ".. how do I make him realize that without coming out and saying it?"
Answer: Show him.
Now that he isn't dating someone, ask him to hang out. Then be an outgoing dork that makes him laugh and really have fun. You don't have to be juvenile and wear a parking cone over your head, but have fun with the situation... Here's an example that would make me melt:
Example: (At the duck pond walking around, I really don't wanna be there)
I'm already annoyed cause I'd rather be doing something else than walking in the duck pond, but I realise that I have the opportunity to have fun with her here, so I stick around. I'm walking along and think that she doesn't want to fight for a relationship, when all of a sudden she throws her arm through mine, allowing me to court her... She is skipping beside me and smiling with that look of love in her eye.. She then looks at the birds and smirks, letting go of my arm and rushing towards them, she scares away the birds.. Etc
See what I mean? JUST HAVE FUN.. If you have fun like that, it's his loss.. He wants to be miserable and cry.. But if you kick back and make him happy by being yourself, and not an emotionally-lovey-dovey-little-girl (no offence, I'm just annoyed with it)... Then you guys are having fun...
What not to do:
1) Don't express your undieing love for that person through words
- Do it through actions. If you love him, you'll want to be close to him.. You'll want to talk with him.. etc.
2) Don't kiss his ass and clean his house (Granted he is 18 years old or younger)
- Instead, live your life and have your own priorities..
3) Don't try to be with him if he wants to be with everyone else.
- Move on. If he can't see that you love him, he doesn't deserve the attention and affection. It's nice and we love it, but he doesn't deserve it.. I'm guilty of that one.