Hi everyone, I'm just so caught up in a bunch of mixed emotions about my situation. My ex first gave a A LOT of excuses why it wasn't working out with us, but to me if he would have done his part we would have been happy but he refused to and broke it off. He denied leaving me to be with someone else, but a little before a month I found out. We've been together for 8 years and he proposed to me and had our parents meet and talked about our wedding etc. But when I suspected he was hanging out and talking to this girl and confronted him of course he denied the whole thing. He'd call me almost every night or and during the day every other day. I know the best thing for me is to move on because he had no problem throwing away our relationship for her but I can't help being bummed out about our future we've always talked about together and can't help but think of him making it all happen with someone else, when it should've been me. I have put in so much into our relationship and in the end He left me... He's not what I always thought.. I thought he was better than that. I always catch myself thinking of how he's holding her and kissing her and just doing everything he used to do with me with her and he's probably happier... I don't know I guess I'm letting it get to me but I'm really struggling to get over it and move on... Advice? I guess... thanks...
Most Helpful Guy
Its hard to get over that shit that's for sure. Especially like when you say you put so much effort into it and they don't. Don't know what to tell you I tried dating since my ex and it hasn't really worked out not much luck, and the sexual chances I've had I didn't go for cause I still think of her and she has me blocked on my phone and social media so its not like she gives a shit about me. Those with big hearts probably tend to obsess or have a hard time letting go1
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Most Helpful Girl
Are you even sure he wants to get back together? If he could throw away 8 years that easily for someone new he must have been damn sure of what he wanted and had been thinking about it for a while. Even though he's giving you signs that he might, he probably just misses you. You were together for 8 years, of course he misses you, but it doesn't mean he wants to get back together. Breaking up with someone, even when it's your choice, sucks, you're still going to go through the grieving process and question your decision. Don't let him give you false hope. The longer you are together he harder it is for both parties, it's like losing a limb, you're so used to having them around and talking to them on a daily basis so it's hard to purge them from your life, hence why he's still coming around the way he is. Don't be fooled! Cut contact with him and move on. You'll never get over him if you keep in contact with him. Sorry you're going through this!0