I broke up with my ex because it just seemed like he wasn't as into me as I was into him. He would only see me about once a week and say that he couldn't do more because of his job. Likewise i was most times afraid to ask him to come visit me for fear of him saying no.
I told him these things one night. He would deny it, telling me that he cares about me and is into me... but his actions spoke differently. I told him it doesn't matter what you say it's your actions. He replied with ' my actions are not against you' and i said yes but they dont have much to do with me.
He then got really mad and told me to leave and never turn back.
I know people say that good looking guys are usually assholes because they know they can get away with it. But my ex was more average looking and not in good shape.
Yet he was still such an asshole to me. Even told me that he didn't want to use the terms 'boyfriend and girlfriend' yet sex was still an expectation.
I actually think he only liked me for my looks.
Why are most guys just straight up assholes?
Most Helpful Guy
In your case I really don't know there are certainly plenty of asshole guys and maybe he was one of them.
One thing I have noticed that women, despite their supposedly greater sensitivity and insight in interpersonal relations frequently do not consider is what they are bringing to the relationship versus what they are demanding and the relative value of these things to each person.
For example you may think you are giving something valuable and precious by having sex but he may regard it as of only moderate value, you may think you are demanding something very ordinary and expected in that he be faithful and spend time with you where he may regard these restrictions as heavy and onerous. This differing view of value is seen by each arty as the other being unreasonably demanding or refusing to acknowledge obligation. bitchiness or asshole behavior.
To see it more clearly pretend you are trying to barter a commodity, you have strawberries and you want to swap for a carpet if you don't agree because you value your strawberries more highly than the carpet salesmen does and he values his carpet more than you do, it's not going to work out.0
Most Helpful Girl
Girl, let me tell you that I have spent 24 years of my life trying to figure this out. All guys seem to be assholes. Even the good ones in the beginning turn out to be rotten eggs. I think it honestly just boils down to communication issues. Either both of you are not communicating effectively or are just misunderstanding each other. I am a very good communicator and being in a relationship with someone who isn't, it's terrible. It's a one way street. It's like talking to a wall. I spent 2 years exhausting this to get nowhere. I honestly would say just chalk it up as a loss and be thankful you don't have to deal with his sorry ass anymore. People would tell me ALL THE TIME to find someone better than my ex but I wouldn't listen and I would be sympathetic to him and go way beyond what was necessary to please him and make sure he was happy. He didn't do the same for me and when he abandoned me when I needed him the most, I realized that I am much happier being single and the right person will eventually come along. Also most guys up to the age of 26-27 are immature and just are straight up idiots. So just be young, have fun, and look for something a bit more serious when you're older! Also, love seems to come at the most unexpected times :D All the best to you!1