I met this guy during fall of last year. The moment I met him I was instantly infatuated by him. The infatuation I had with him had grown and so had my feelings for him. I'd never felt this way towards any guy before so I became terrified of losing him. I always suspected him of talking to and possibly doing more with other girls when we weren't together so I never fully trusted him. We had a falling out in January and ended our relationship. How did things end? Simple. I told a bunch of people right in his face that we weren't together. Which we weren't. We were never official. We made up in April and in May we decided to hang out. When we hung out it was like things were back to normal he even told me not to talk to other guys because that's how things between us got heated in the first place (I never talked to other guys by the way. I liked him too much to do that). After we hung out, the very next day he invited me over and we did have sex. I didn't want to but I eventually gave in. It was terrible as usual. A few days go by and things are going great. But I notice that I have to text him first in order to talk to him and it was never really like that before. I instantly got a bad feeling. I just knew something wasn't right. I got this amazing idea to catfish him and low and behold all my suspicions of him since day one were proven right. He didn't text me back one night so the next day I waited for him to text me first. He never did so I made the profile. Instantly he replied to the girl I was catfishing him with. He told her how much he wanted to meet her, how he wasn't talking to anyone, how much he liked her, etc. I was furious. I texted him told him he was dirty and to no longer contact me. I blocked his number and everything else. He didn't try to contact me or anything either. Anyways I couldn't bring myself to cut contact with him and my catfish girl. I miss him and talking to him. Through her is the only way I can talk to him. Am I crazy for all of this?
Most Helpful Guy
You are crazy for keep on talking to him. Finding out that he might be a cheater if suspecting is reasonable to an extent. Still talking with him with said catfish account is crazy.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've done that before.. With making the fake online profile and cat fishing to catch a guy to see if he is genuine with me or not. Both times it didn't end well, and I was very upset. I had been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks and slept over, and he would message me every day and I really thought we were going strong.. And then I saw him online and made a fake profile and he said to the girl he wasn't seeing anyone, never really met anyone, how hard it is to do so, etc. Man! Did that sting! Right away I reacted as you had, my only bad is that I let him talk back into my life because he really did go off and explain himself and he made me feel like it wasn't as big as I was making it. We are still talking... I must be a fool, I don't know. I recently made another fake account since that incident happened a month ago. He hasn't messaged her yet, so we'll see.
Anyways, I don't think you're crazy at all. You really liked the guy! Those are real feelings and he destroyed that. This is on him, it really is. I know others will tell you that wasn't right to catfish him and whatever, but we have to do what we have to do in order to see if others are genuine, especially when we have suspicions as we had. It's a form of protection, and I think all you're feeling and did is valid. Don't let guys make you feel guilty or as if you did wrong when it was really them.1
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