My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago and immediately after that he started dating his ex, one that he claimed he couldn't stand and one that was obsessed with HIM for the past 5 years and would not leave him alone. We were very much in love, we had a wonderful life together and I am actually the one that wanted it to end, not because I didn't love him but because I knew that it was not going to be forever and felt it was better to cut both our losses. I don't want him back but for some reason I am literally OBSESSED with him and his new relationship, I hated this girl with a passion and now the thought of the 2 of them together is tearing me apart inside.
Please, please do not tell me to keep myself busy, I need to know how to get him, both of them, OUT OF MY HEAD before I lose my mind! I can't stop thinking about it no matter how hard I try :(
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well I can't tell you how to get this out of your head but I believe that you have to find the reason you are obsessed first.
i think the reason you cannot get him out of your head is that he moved on so fast and that he went back to his ex. making your relationship look like an affair. This is not what happened!how long you were together?
Actually I think you are lucky you got rid of him. in my head he went back to his ex cause he didn't want to suffer the break-up with you and being with another person makes it easier or even unnoticeable. of course nothing is free in this world so the person who is going to pay for his pain is his ex, who took him right in and absorbed his pain. this might sound very crazy to you, or reasonable, but this is the way I see this.
their relationship will end soon, unless I am completely wrong (I don't know the guy!) and with your behavior you showed him how valuable is the stability( love, appreciation, affection, etc) his ex offers. if this is the case then you brought them together for ever.
so in summary, he went back to her for one of the next two reasons; to get over you, or because of you!
now I can't see why you are still obsessed? is it as Zoom said because you gave him to her in a silver plate? well if that is the case girl, if you don't want him someone else will. it happened to be his ex. in this case you are very selfish, like many women who want everything.
In the end, I think the problem is YOU. tell you are superego ( link ) to make the ego ( link ) and especially the id ( link ) to let go of the situation.
i hope I helped
ps sorry if I sounded rude :-)1