Well the true question is that my girl she is going to prom with this guy, she has always liked since about two years ago. She has asked this guy out and both times he said no. Now she is taking him to the prom. I'm afraid no matter how much she reassures me I feel like when that night happens that guy is going to ask her out or pull some kind of stunt. I mean that's what I would do. She says she is doing this for a last hurrah to get him out of her system. (Also point here the reason why I can't go is be because I am 22 and yes she's 18.) But the thing is none of this makes sense to me. Would it be more like I'm going to avoid him not think of him more like getting it out of her system. All my friends say that it won't give her the closure she wants by doing this rather causing more feelings to happen.
She tells me she cares for me she tells me that she won't leave me. Yet everything about this situation is not letting me be at peace with the whole deal. This getting out of my system deal makes no sense to me at all to me. Please any advice out there.
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If I were you I would trust her. Yes she is being selfish but you cannot control her actions. She's young so of course she will think irrationally at times. You have to somewhat expect that. If you try to control the situation you'll only push her further away. So my advice is this: Let her go with him. Trust her. Don't worry about her or him. Tell her to have a good time and pick her up after. There is NO rule against who escorts her home. You can even plan the rest of the night. Taking her to dinner etc. If she's unsure about the relationship she is in (which is what I see) then remind her why she's in it WITH you. Share her night and don't allow her to be 100% selfish or the opportunity for embarrassment if things do get out of hand. This is a hard place to be in but I do wish you the best of luck.
I also agree with Elizaabla. Give her your heart to heart but do let her know you cannot control her actions because she's now a grown woman who should be more than capable of making logical decisions.
I hope everything works out for you. You seem like a very caring individual; one of the good guys that are all taken. Best wishes.3