To break it down and not make it terribly long... I just got broken up with and it was near 6 years we were dating. We were planning our lives together but reality came and broke those plans... which may have been for the best... as now I realize the severity of the issues we had and that maybe we dated for 3 years too long..
Also, I dont have a lot of friends I actually hang out with... few friendships i had went cold over the time I had a girlfriend. my problem isn't only NOT thinking about my failed relationship, but on how to move forward. I even went to the extent of switching jobs, so that it would change my life up a bit from grave yarding to a place where i deal with more people so I won't be so depressed and lonely.
I didn't exactly ever had "good" self esteem, although I have had a few girlfriends that EVEN I considered to be "too pretty" for me... now that my last relationship ended, I am back to feeling really down and low about myself... especially because the relationship i was in created a lot of insecurities. So my issue is, while I would never turn away a possibility, I keep finding myself LOOKING at other women A LOT.
I am feeling DESPERATE for attention or for someone to just hang out with me... I keep feeling like I need to be cared about/loved/liked/wanted... and I keep bumping into girls I am already hanging out with... but I doubt that I am ready to be with anyone... and I keep hoping despite me remembering seconds later how low I feel about myself at this moment. how do I deal with this? how can I find ways to convince myself that I DONT need to be on the look-out for next mrs right? part of me always feels like i could be missing out on someone great if I dont TRY... but I also am tired of trying because I dont feel up to it on the confidence department... any tips?