Basically there's this brown girl, I don't know her in real life but she's not too attractive, but she's a friend's friend and she's the only girl in the group chat for this video game. I play the video game too but well the person who was doing the invitation is not close to me, so he invited his friends including my boyfriend and that girl. That girl is kind of trying to flirt with my boyfriend by sending him hearts and she keeps saying stuff like "You're always in my heart." she's said that to not just my boyfriend but a bunch of other guys in the chat.
I read this off his fb, that he gave to me himself. My boyfriend didn't even ask me if I wanted to play a game today, instead he asked her. He's playing with her only, without any of his guy friends. Better yet, she knows I'm in a relationship with him.
wtf? Why do guys who are in relationships love the attention other girls give them so much?
What should i do in this situation; am I just being insecure or is there something going on?
I really love him and he tells me that too. I feel like he's just bored with our relationship or something. He has done a lot to show me affection but he's also done to make me lose trust in him..
Most Helpful Guy
"Why do guys who are in relationships love the attention other girls give them so much?"
Feeds our ego. That said, if he's flirting with this girl and kind of encouraging it, I think he needs to modify his behavior.
It's like why do married women wear cosmetics?
Guys still like attention from the opposite sex, even when we're not even that interested in the girl and have a girl of our own.
It reminds us that we're still desirable among the opposite sex. It's not easy to know if we still have it when we have a long-term girlfriend, since she'll always be into us no matter what and she'll always treat us like we're #1. But only way to know for sure if you've still got it is if other women are giving you lots of attention.
Anyway, that girl sounds a bit obnoxious. I hate it when guys and girls overstep the boundaries of those in relationships.6
Most Helpful Girl
I'm really sorry but I wouldn't stand for that treatment from him. If he isn't getting something he needs from you, then he needs to communicate that to you and allow you a chance to help fix the situation. A relationship can't be fixed of one party is seeking the answers from outside of the relationship.
To me it seems really disrespectful of him to entertain her flirting and need for attention when it's obvious she likes him. He's in a relationship and shouldn't be doing that. How would he feel if the situation was reversed and you were the one entertaining a guy who liked you? I'm sure he would be uncomfortable with that.
I say you should have a serious sit down talk with him. If he is pulling away, that could be a sign he is not interested in continuing on.1