Most Helpful Guy
I think better to stop making dating a goal. Make it about building up friends (lots of them ideally) and having fun. That should help you feel like a normal girl again and start dispelling some of those fears, all while having a blast with people. Then at some point you'll be ready to date some of these people.
Most Helpful Girl
Time! Lots of time and patience:(
Getting over a narcissist is hard because you've been on an emotional roller coaster for however long and it's effected you in major ways. Choosing to get over one is your first step, so you're on the right track! Keeping up NC is important, as they are so slick in sneaking back into our lives just to cause more chaos. You need to take this time not only to get over him but to work on you. You've probably been destroyed in some form from this experience and it's great to read up on them AND you and why you feel everything you do and most importantly, why you stayed. This will help you avoid a similar situation in the future and know when to recognize those red flags. Join supper groups, there is a few great ones out there online, journal your feelings. One thing I learned from my own experience is that no one will actually understand all you're feeling unless they've dealt with this themselves. It's a very hard situation to get out of, it makes you feel crazy and totally takes over you. With that said, you will get there!!! It may never feel like it but you will! Look after the most important person here, which is YOU and remember that none of this was about you. xx
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