I was with this guy who hurt me in a really cruel way. He was my friend for a long time and after we started sleeping together he started to ignore me and saw me less and less frequently. I really fell for him. I always knew he would be successful, he's always been passionate about what he did. I truly loved him, as a friend as a lover as a person. He turned out to be a horrible individual. I'm 20% happy for him 80% wishing he wasn't doing so well. It hurts so bad I don't know if I'll ever get over it. It sucks that someone can use another person in such a messed up way and then go on to be so successful in life. I don't know if I'm heartbroken or just plain mad at this point.
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Not quite the same thing but I discovered a few years ago that a girl I dated as a teenager is now a well known restaurant critic in New York City who regularly writes for the city's biggest newspaper. Which I found ironic because our first date together resulted in us nearly being thrown out of the restaurant because of how much of a bitch she was to the staff.
I got a little resentful when I found out because the circumstances behind our breakup revolves around her having lied to me about a lot of things and cheating on me, so I didn't feel she deserved to be living this happy successful life (did I mention she's also married to a millionaire?) but I got over it quickly. That was almost 20 years ago after all.1
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My situation is slightly different, but still kind of related... so I've never dated, but my Senior year of high school I had feelings for this guy that had played soccer all his life, and last I heard is trying to play professionally.
We'd been friends for a while, and though he never admitted it, I know he liked me (and my self esteem is shit, so I promise I'm not "tooting my own horn"). Eventually, I started to feel the same. So after a few months I told him how I felt, and he turned me down saying "he did think I was pretty, but he didn't want to date anymore in high school because some other girl screwed him over the year before and he wasn't over her yet" or some crap. So anyway he acted cool w/ my "confession" or whatever for about a day, then started ignoring/avoiding me. Literally going out of his way to not be around me. Yet I tried to talk to him about it, he insisted *I* was the one making it awkward. Ok.
We had to work on a Senior art show together (us and like, 5 other people) so for months he acted like everything was cool. But as soon as the show was done and over, he basically went back to ignoring/avoiding me harder than ever... but I'm under the impression that we're cool.
So I decided to ask him again why he was acting like that and ended up blowing up at me in front of some of his little friends, telling me "Can I say something? I'm not trying to be mean, but you're not in my world!" And some other hurtful stuff including accusing me of being a liar about some things I won't get into here.
Anyway, it's been over 3 years and I'm not going to lie, I'm not over it b/c to this day I don't know what I did to deserve to be treated like that. I can never forgive someone who had me getting out of classes for an entire day so I could go to the bathroom to bawl my eyes out. He unfriended/ blocked me on social media and everything, so I have no clue what he's doing now and I don't give a damn. But let's just say, even though I already could care less about soccer, I will never, ever watch a soccer game w/ USA playing in it just in case his little soccer dream actually comes true.1