Boyfriend started pushing me away after many years together. Stress and pressure caused it o think and he just blocked me out.
We have broken up but I wanted to talk through it but he just wouldn't speak to me, just kept saying he felt nothing and went into a man cave.
I told him I would leave him alone and to let me know if he wants go chat. Nearly half way through no contact and nothing. Am I doing the right thing leaving him alone?
Most Helpful Guy
unfortunately, the old addage, "You can take a horse too water" is all too true.
Forcing yourself on him is only going to make things worse.
A reminder from time to time you are there and letting him come to you is good.
For your own self care I would recomend setting a boundary - decide on a limit and tell him.
"Say, I don't want to pressure you, but if I don't hear from you by XXX I'm going to have to assume you are no longer interested in the relationship."
That opens the door for him to even just touch base with you and tell you he needs more time if that is what he needs, but it gives you a boundary you can work with if things don't bounce back.1
Most Helpful Girl
If he wants to be left alone then I'd respect that.
He's the one pulling away so he's the one who will need to make an effort with you. You've tried to reach out to him , there's only so much fighting you can do alone For a relationship to survive both people need to fight to make it work. It won't work if only one of you is making the effort
So it's up to him now to decide what he wants. He knows where he stands with you, so it's up to him now to let you know where you stand with him1