What do you get when your sister has a loser boyfriend and low self esteem?
What Guys Said 1
I think you gotta let her figure this out on her own. At some point she will come to her senses and realize you all were right. But, she has to learn that on her own and through the hard way...
What Girls Said 2
You don't do anything. Her love life is completely on her. Just be there for your sister, that's all you can do.
I totally understand you are afraid for your sister and her future. I think you are understandably not happy with her boyfriend.
But she needs to make the choice to leave him. Pushing her to leave him will only make her run faster to him. By the sounds of it, they live a state apart, is that true? Does she plan on applying to colleges? What I would do is support her in her decisions. Let her see how terrible he is.
Give her a chance to see it for herself. I know you worry about her, but trust me this is the only way you guys can be sure she will leave him and not look back.
What I would do is make it seem so exciting to be applying to colleges and universities. Go on trips with her to view these colleges (make sure you actually visit some of them!). This will make her fantasize about her future and not the future with the boyfriend so much. She will realize that her dreams are bigger than the dreams she has with her boyfriend and hopefully not want to be with him anymore.
Also, make sure to make it fun. Go to some restaurants in the city where she could be going to school, make it seem like an adventure, get her really fired up about it.
Once she gets excited about colleges she will have to start planning financially. Once she sees how ridiculous it is that her boyfriend, who works, has to get money from her to pay for his flights, she will soon grow tired of him.
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