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I think you did the right thing, you asked for him to do what you felt you needed and he didn't.
Talking to an ex along isn't a directly problem but the fact you made it clear you didn't like it. Shows the disrespect more than anything on this.
Overall respect is about making a person feel equal and valued. That can mean different things to people, but in this situation it's clear his ex and his independence is more important than what you want.