Ex says he thinks we will reconnect in the future?
What Guys Said 1
Im in a situation that relates to yours. Except for I'm the guy that you find after you broke up with him. Now this is gonna be something that you're not going to want to hear because you obviously still love him and are probably still confused but you have to move on. "He doesn't think if we got back together right now that our relationship would work since we haven't worked on ourselves enough". Thats just another way to say that he's going to go out and try to find someone perfect for him because you aren't. And once time goes by and you meet someone else who really turns your world upside down. Your gonna realize that he wasn't the one either. I know your upset, and confused and heart broken over the fact that he wants you guys "to develop" but if he was your match. He would've stayed and developed WITH YOU. God works in mysterious ways; Don't miss your blessing.
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What Girls Said 1
I am going through that right now. My (ex) boyfriend explicitly stated that he still wants a future with me but he does have some family and financial issues that are draining him and making him depressed. He feels that he can't give me enough of him and pursue me full force due to the situation he is in and would like some time to get out of it. Regardless it still hurts.
In regards to your situation, I wouldn't keep meeting up. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder and if you dont give him time to miss you he is going to feel like he can have you at any time and make excuses such as "not enough growth" as a reason not to pursue you full force.
Honestly I think you should be alone not in hopes that he comes back but so you can strengthen yourself. You just got out of a 5 year relationship and the best thing for you now would be to focus on yourself. As much as I am tempted to call my boyfriend I think it's best to give it time. I don't know if he will come back. I don't even know if my boyfriend will come back even though he promised. Only time will tell. I do know that it is super important to get back out there. Because in the iinstance that he doesn't come back to you, you will have your own two feet to stand on.
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