So my ex randomly up and left me for a guy in December, they're still together. I'm happy for her.
I never been the type to pay attention to an ex after they moved on, I don't even bother with them.
Its been 7 months since our breakup. I've been No Contact for those 7 months.
2 weeks before my bday I notice she had unblocked me on social media cause she was liking my stuff and I didn't bite the breadcrumbs.
so a couple days before my bday she was texting my best friend telling him to me, to text her. I said I'm not going to bother. So my bday she texted me happy birthday, she started saying how proud she was of me and glad I found someone who makes me happy. Etc all positive things...
well then 2 days later, she just snaps on me out of nowhere. With "I want you to know I cheated on you twice, Im blocking you and your friends off everything, yada yada". -____-
I never replied back. I was just questioning "how was you so nice and cheerful and positive 2 days ago, now you're bitter and upset about something".
i honestly don't know if she cheated but it's been 7 months why bring it up now when we've both moved on?
i wasn't even going to argue because if you're in a relationship the same one you left me for why are you still bringing up the past shouldn't you be focused on what's you have now
What's the point of being bitter and angry about a past relationship, if you're happy in your new one
Most Helpful Girl
I can't speak from her perspective entirely because I've never been in that position. It sounds like she's upset at being rejected, insecure, immature, and angry she cannot control and manipulate you. I was abused and cheated on and it affects me to this day. I have nightmares about my ex. Like, I understand that is just how my mind is dealing with it. I've moved on and I'm happy, I just know if I ever saw him again it would hurt.
But when my ex cheated, all I could think of for a year was him and her, and even though we had no contact and she dumped him he confessed every single day he thinks of me. I think maybe for some people guilt keeps you occupied, like for him, and lack of closure kept me occupied.
I, however did get closure years later, I know something is severely wrong with him it's not me. It just takes as long as it takes. I think though, you should prevent her from contacting you; she will hurt you intentionally to try and regain control over you, don't let her.0
Most Helpful Guy
well clearly she wasn't as happy for you as she had indicated earlier and is not over whatever may have happened in your relationship1