what do you mean transition towards easy-going and attractive?
It can be a tendency in these scenarios to get caught up in lots of feelings, act emotionally instead of level-headed.Since she broke up with you, it's kind of like hitting the reset button on the relationship. You have to attract her again like when you first started dating, and this time with a bit of an obstacle in the way. Dwelling on the past will often remind her of why she broke up with you, so you want to kind of focus on the present, take it easy, maybe seek her company sometimes but not act like your whole life hinges on it.
so wait should i say sorry or no?
Again it's like you want to present the best side of yourself: avoid drama.The sincere apology is probably needed to help, a slight reminder of the past and how you're sorry about it, but then you kind of want to transition out of that and focus on being charming in the present.Keep your cool and stay attractive, confident.
Yeah, you should say you're sorry but forget that she also did some things to hurt you. Don't seek "fairness" (it's usually subjective and two partners demanding it will often escalate arguments to world war 3). Seek a positive outcome instead. Do the apology but then be warm, kind, confident, attractive, easy-going. Convince her the drama is in the past.
so if you do it over text, how do you transition
>> Convince her the drama is in the past.Not through words but through actions. How you behave. Don't try to persuade her verbally that the drama is in the past once the apology is done. Show her.
Maybe try to do the apology in person. Ask her to meet.
there's literally no opportunity to see her in person
Maybe small apology and ask her if you could meet and talk if you can. Then perhaps show up and put on your best. Don't allow yourself to act on angry no matter what she says. Be mature. Be the bigger guy. Keep your cool and be warm and gentle.
>> there's literally no opportunity to see her in personDamn. In that case, maybe text apology first. You can say you never meant what you said, it was in the heat of the moment. Maybe tell her you really respect her. Hopefully the words will come to you -- try to kind of do a "positive apology".
"Positive apology" like don't blame her for any of it. Don't dwell on the past. Don't get sentimental. Be sincere but not too emotional. Be ultra mature. Don't try to persuade her not to cancel the break up. Don't plead. Avoid drama, sentiment, sadness.
Don't try to persuade her not to cancel the break up [oops -- don't try to persuade her to cancel the break up]
hey can i ask you a couple questions over message plz?
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she said the comments changed her feelings, but she also did things that hurt meso would saying sorry even change anything? or make me look desperate?
Maybe. It makes you look mature.