I am in so much pain, my relationship was having ups and downs and I had my own personal issues going on. I caused a huge argument, not for the first time, but this time my now ex boyfriend has moved on. He's found a new girl who is everything I'm not - she's beautiful and extremely physically fit and funny and they seem to get on really well.
What I want to know is how do guys do this? How do they move on so fast? I saw him last night and I cried for hours on end, and he cried a lot too, but just told me there was a special place in his heart for me and that it was over, and he had plans to meet this other girl. He's genuinely doing so well, and after 2 years of being together I just don't know how to cope.
Any advice for getting over someone and moving the hell on? And would you say that guys can genuinely move on this fast or that it's more of a distraction?
Most Helpful Guy
Guys and girls move on as soon as they meet someone they like better than their previous partner. You say "she's extremely physically fit". If you are in poor physical condition, you should work on that. It will improve your confidence and mood and make you a much more attractive partner for a guy who is in shape.4
Most Helpful Girl
Guys sometimes try to get over previous relationships by getting into new ones. It is kind of like rebound in basketball hence the name "rebound relationship." It does not mean that he is over you.
I am so sorry you feel this way. It must be frustrating and difficult, but you must remember how wonderful you are. I admire your strength for not getting into a relationship with another guy when you know you are not ready. That would not be fair to either you or that guy.
One thing you do deserve at all times though is respect, especially from yourself. You must remember to take care of yourself. You must get up in the morning, you must brush your teeth, eat three meals a day, etc. And most importantly, you must not spend time alone dwelling on what it is that you did wrong.
Instead, go and see your buds. Make plans with them. Do the things you enjoy. Even if it does not cheer you up right away, with time you will start to feel better. Friends heal us when we are going through hard times. You must allow yourself that medicine.
Also, do not beat yourself over the head when you start to think about him. It is going to happen and when it does, just try to focus instead on what is going on around you and try to stay in the moment as best you can.
I believe in you :)0