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I don't think this will work. It's too messy, and if he prioritizes his female friend over you (tells her things first, tells her things he doesn't tell you etc.) then that's a bad sign that shouldn't be overlooked.
Breaking up is a serious thing. Personally, I don't believe in taking a break from the relationship, or breaking up and then working your way back into a relationship. It's the sort of thing you should be able to work through while you're still together.
It seems like you have a lot on your mind. This is something you should think long and hard about. Some questions you might want to ask yourself:
- Do you think you'll get over your insecurities? If so, how?
- If you do get back together, will he be able to start prioritizing you over his female friend? Or will she always come first no matter what you do?
- Can he remain friends with her without you feeling uncomfortable?
- Do you REALLY want to get back together with him? Pros and cons.
My advice to you would be to consider moving on from him. If you can't be friends with him, then you most likely won't be able to work things out with him, since I'm assuming he wants to work things out while being friends. And if you'll always be his second priority, and his female friend his first, then that's not something you have to accept. You deserve to be someone's first priority.