Well I work with a girl who I'm very interested in. we've been working together for about 6 months now and I get the impression that she's interested in me too.
so about 2 months ago I asked her if she would like to do something sometime, which she replied possibly, but then later that night sent me a text message saying she wasn't looking for a boyfriend right now and that she wanted to remain friends. which is really only "at work friends." she's pretty shy in general but she's pretty comfortable around me.
But the vibe I get from her is that is that she's interested, we talk about all sorts of stuff at work, from laughing about TV shows we enjoy to how we would raise kids someday, and everything in between.
shes says she likes to laugh at really funny things and I make her laugh all day long and she makes me laugh. she's somewhat called me charming one day also. we see eye to eye on basically everything we talk about, so can I possibly be reading way to much into all this?
Basically I got at least another year I have to work with this woman and my bottled up feeling seem to stress me out sometimes.
should I give it one last hurray and just tell her how I feel or just sail this friendship boat to where ever it might lead?
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Hey there. Firstly, you need to take care of you. The worst thing you can do is live your life thinking "what if?". Suggest an after work drink or a lunch, and tell her what you wrote here. Also, you mentioned that she does not want a boyfriend right now. This may be a result of a recent breakup, and your willingness to communicate with her honestly without any pressure may bring about some pleasant surprises. Remember not to be pushy or even expect a reply from her as this may make the work environment uncomfortable; just tell her how you feel.