So long story short i've never fallen in love with a girl as much as I did with this one but things changed really fast. She was so perfect and all and seemed so mature and elegant. About 3 months ago she told me that she wasn't ready for a relationship just yet... claimed that we were too young (not in the middle of our lives yet) hence not sure of what road to take. I didn't doubt her one bit in the sense of stringing me along or saw a guy better than me. All she wanted was exactly what she told me... she just needed time and with time she will come back to me ready. She begged me to wait for her and at that point of time i was really blinded by love. I straight up gave her an I promise and that I'd never stop loving her and she said the same. I didn't realize that she was actually wearing a disguise and that in reality she had nothing that fitted into my type of girl. The only thing left was her 'appearance' other than that she was a girl with a very immature and rational behavior. But how did i not realize this... well i think two major things had to do with it. 1 i was completed blinded and 2. she had that disguise for a solid 1 year and to me i don't know anyone who can do that without actually changing completely. I am now in a really bad situation because i do not want her to be in my future as i can see it not working out at all... but what can i do? nothing? i've made a promise... Is it my fault for thinking this way?
Most Helpful Girl
You made a promise to the girl whom you "thought" she was. Not to the person she is underneath the facade. You already know things will not work out, so why string yourself along with someone you do not see a future with.
I definitely agree that your word is your bond, but she wasn't being completely real with you so its very irrelevant. No, it is not your fault. But just make sure to be careful with what you promise someone next time.0
Most Helpful Guy
First don't be upset. Your probably wondering why a 17 year old has responded to this. I'm very weary of people in general but one thing I've learned if someone doesn't treat you right pr you feel that person is hurting you get them out of your life. In this case I wouldn't tell her anything I would slowly drift away from her and if she notices and asks why be honest and don't be ashamed. She found you to be Interesting enough, that's better than what some men get from women. I've never been in a relationship and your making me jealous :-) this is a lesson you should carry with you. You will find someone else and be upfront about what you want in the relationship and this time tell them you know when a woman is leading you on and you don't like it :-)0