So I guess that such a guy wouldn't get another chance with you?
@scooogy It's extremely unlikely.
Would you recommend this vice versa as well?
@scooogy That is really up for the individual to decide.
Have you been rejected before?
@Toad-1 Of course.
@RJGraveyTrain well, "of course"... They must have had pretty good reasons to do so.
@scooogy Of course they did. One guy rejected me because I wasn't reserved enough, and I sure as hell am not even SLIGHTLY reserved. Lol.
Considering your attractiveness, that's quite plausible :P
a lot of respect for saying thia
If you didn't reciprocate his interest earlier on, then weren't you the one who put him in the Friendzone?
@brain5000 'put him in the friend zone'... you mean didn't accept his offer to start dating because I wasn't sure if I felt that way about them?yeah, sure. What does that change?
You put him in the Friendzone first. You were the friender, and he was the friendee. You were the perpetrator, he was the victim. It changes everything.
@brain5000 how so?
Because you went first. You set the tone of the relationship, he respected your wishes. You implemented the definition of the relationship. You defined it, not him.
@brain5000 you do realize that defining a relationship does not mean that things are set in stone, yeah?
I understand, but I have also experienced relationships that go from friends to dating, and I probably would never do it again unless it felt very natural. Some people say that asking another person out and being rejected leaves you right where you started with nothing gained or lost, but when you mess with friendship, there _is_ something valuable at risk. So yeah, not necessarily set in stone but maybe it is. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXOwSdcGEgg
Don't put a guy in the friendzone unless you are sure, because once you put him there, it can be difficult to get him out. You know, if a woman put me in the friendzone and started dating another guy, and then that relationship ended and she wanted me, I would be all "fuckno." I am not second fiddle nor backup plan.
@brain5000 mhmm. Right. Well.. I'm still in a relationship with that very guy now. Three years and going strong so you really can't break dating down into something that is successful/satisfying because of adhering to specific rules. Sometimes it'll work, sometimes it won't, in every single circumstance.
I am glad it worked out for you, but it doesn't change anything I said.
@brain5000 What you said is not much more than a generalized rule that you made on a handful of circumstances that you experienced and you advocate for it because it shifts all of the blame for your rejection onto the girls or some magical 'rule'. On anything but yourself.But hey- whatever helps you sleep better at night (alone).
loool she said alone. bro dats cold
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what is fuck zoned? please
I think its she gets used and the guy moves on?
@Touglyforfemales I don't consider it getting used. If I agree to sex that's on me. But sometimes it does hurt when a guy is like.. interested in fucking you but not dating you. The only variable there is your personality xD
I hear ya
Well at least you can get sex so I don't feel bad. I'm so fucking ugly women never look at me I should be complaining to you.
@Touglyforfemales I'm not complaining.
I should be complaining cause I was born with a curse of being a guy. I feel like I'm being punished over something my ancestors did. Check out my PF to see how ugly I am.
Wow--I've never heard that term before. Fuckzoned! Geez! I guess that might be the equivalent in some sense. It does sound pretty unpleasant, especially if you really want a relationship
Id fuck zone you
Sorry, realised the misunderstood the question (I only read the question and not the explanation.Yeah, I haven't had that happen either. If I decide I am not attracted to a guy romantically, I usually don't change my mind about it.Also I think guys usually don't Friend zone someone they were once attracted to with such permanency. If there is a chance in the future with them, they lift the 'friendzoning."
depends on the circumstances read what the way guys have responded. most won't even bother.
I didn't see any responses from guys that indicated that... Which one in particular are you talking about?Anyway I might be wrong about this. It was just what I had kinda observed. Cos it's happened before when I declined a guy's interest, but wanted to be friends. Cos I honestly really liked him as a person. He said he couldn't do that. So I gave him his space, and then about a year later, reached out to him again. Hoping he had gotten over me, and was ready to be friends. Unfortunately he took that as a sign that I was having second thoughts about him. And after hanging out a couple of times, i realised he was trying to get with me again. Pretty crushing, that I had to break that guy's heart twice. But that was part of the reason I thought this way about the matter.
I hope u Dnt blame that guy from distancing himself. Anyone would think that you reaching out to him meant u wanted a relationship with him. Since he already basically told u dat he's not interested in being friends. in other words it means "only call me when ur ready for a dating relationship".
I don't blame him at all. But in my Defence I made it clear to him, when I called, that I always wanted to be friends.
so now put urself in his shoes if dat was u. u really liked someone and the guy told u dat u guys shud just be friends. how would u feel. dis was my original question?
I am sure I would feel disappointed, feel less worthy, wonder what's wrong with me etc. But I think I would get over it pretty quick...
lol seems like u Dnt give a fuck anymore
Pretty much sure I'm horny 99.99% of the time and my hormones have been shy high lately but I'm ugly and I don't trust hookers most are dirty or undercover cops.
Sky not shy
Ugly men?I disagree strongly.
ye why ugly men tho I fort u would say women?
@cth96190 OK fine feminists lol.
why would undercover cops dress up as prostitutes except when catching a mafia boss? Or do you hate fucking a undercover cop?
Or do they punish people knowingly buying service from a prostitute not declaring their income?
@anonanonanonanon A lot of female cops will and do pose as prostitutes to catch Johns in the act. No I don't hate undercover cops I wanted to be one in HS.
Are they stalkers or why would they want to catch you? You aren't doing anything wrong?
@anonanonanonanon Oh no I've never been with a prostitute.
I have never been too. But I just noticed that it would be illegal in some areas. Here they have official businesses where you can rent prostitutes/rooms as long as you are 18 or above.
@anonanonanonanon I heard it was legal in Las Vegas?
I am from Europe
@anonanonanonanon Oh no problem.
Are you serious? As a female, I can say that maybe you've met a couple of horrible women but the majority of us are not. Maybe you just haven't got your head far enough out of your ass so that you can actually appreciate some of the women around you.
the feelings.. maybe.but i think girls get friendzoned more AFTER sex. guys get friendzoned BEFORE sex.just a theory.
@feminismisnarcissism Maybe a plausible one too
once you "friendzone" a girl you don't come back lol
What makes you say that?
Yeah... what makes you say that? If anything girls are MORE sensitive than guys are. You can't speak for a gender when you are not female.
Dnt believe you
So I guess you've never been friendzoned yet?
@scooogy I have by three guys, but there is nothing you can do so you move on
@The butterfly How would you react if he "rejected" you because he didn't notice you liked him and you actually felt rejected and later on he realized it and came back to you, asking for a second chance?
I would give him a second chance, but if that didn't happen I wouldn't be heart broken either
Doesn't hurt your even a bit?