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Here's what's wrong--> Cheating through a marriage, and CONTINUEING to do it thereafter.
You weren't in the wrong by talking to his parents. Obviously there isn't room for the "whole story", so I can't speak about your guy's relationship.. But what I can say is that 4/10ths of this message was about him cheating, the other part was about you caring about him (Another obvious thing due to him being your first)..
At this point, forget the drama and forget the bullsh*t. It shows that you can't get over it by being nice and letting you and him be friends, because he's taking advantage of that power. So here's what I propose:
- You noticed that during highschool and other things, you were "okay" with him leading his own life, because your life wasn't focused all around him. It seems that since you guys have gotten back together, that's what has happened-> You're falling for him again... If you can build a distance there by filling your time with other things that take importance, you'll do a lot better like in the past. But for the long term, you need to let your heart move on. It's not an easy path, but living with this guy is abusive. He cheated on his wife for so long, ultimately leading to a divorce.. I don't wanna see that happen to you either.
I hope things work out, but if you need more information just let me know. Like I said though, you weren't in the wrong for contacting his family.. It's just his way of "Weaseling" back into your life, by making you feel like crap- when you care about him- in an effort to make you feel less valuable than what you really are. You have quite a bit going for you if you can just "pack up and leave". I've known quite a few people that didn't have that same option due to having children, or having no place to go, etc.. Get out while you can. There's more to this world than that guy.
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