I've had nights where I'd dream that she and I talked at length and worked things out, only to realize it was a dream after I woke up. I don't dare contact her because she's in an extremely difficult situation, refuses my help, and only gets upset now when we try to talk. Won't get into it, but she got a bunch of things in her head about me that aren't exactly accurate. Maybe it's easy to take out the frustrations on me, I can't exactly defend myself from over a thousand miles away.
Having a drink before bed is the only thing I've found that keeps the dreams at bay but I don't want to start acting the alcoholic so I don't let myself do that. My performance at work is suffering, it's hard to give a damn about anything anymore. She was my life.
- Drink and sleepVote A
- Don't drink, don't sleepVote B
- Ask a bunch of strangers on the internet for adviceVote C
Most Helpful Girl
Well she's accusing you or making up scenarios of you that aren't accurate? So she doesn't trust you (in general). The more you try to fix it the more she gets upset about it.
So in a way it's a headache. If she doesn't want to work it out and talk about it like two rational adults then that's her problem not yours.
No drinking. Try going to gym (if you already don't), listen to some music, read a book, just focus on other things. Easier said then done yeah I know, but it's a habit you need to get out of0
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Most Helpful Guy
I can understand and I think it's normal but then resorting to alcohol is not at all solution to handle this. You are doing any good to your health by following this way. Learn to accept the situation and try to move on.0