me and my husband have been together now for four years we just got married 3 months ago he's a very egotistical man I understand that however a week ago we had a fight a really bad verbal argument I got my stuff and moved in with my mom I hurt his pride by doing so we have a vacation planned. he is a very stubborn man he said he needs time I understand however our vacation is in 3 days and I told him if he left without me it was over he text me and said he wants me to go but we're not back together is that his ego talking or does he love me
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in my opinion both of you need to learn to calm down, try to be a bigger person, and learn to cooperate and seek positive outcomes for each other instead of demanding what you perceive as fair treatment.
Try not to be so hasty with words and actions. Do you really mean it when you say that if he goes on the vacation alone, it's over? Have you thought it through where you're okay with being single and without him and divorced all over that? If so, maybe you don't belong together.
I don't know the nature of the verbal argument beforehand and it might have largely been his fault, but to me it's not healthy. It usually takes two to tango to escalate arguments to the level where you're moving out of the house, and that can cease and you can have a peaceful marriage if one or ideally both of you learn to deescalate conflicts by being a bigger person, calming down, and gently talking it out.
In any case that's what I'd seek now if you care about him -- take a gentle, warm, level-headed tone and calmly and warmly discuss this vacation prospect.1
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